Comments on: Are You Best Friends With Your Spouse?

By: alex

alex — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 20:09:41 +0000

this is not a comment..just need a little advice…i was recently married for 4 years didnt work out..im 42 years old…the problem i have,is a meet this wonderful girl,,just walked in the mall to buy some sneakers..we talked and 1 year and 7 months later we are still dating..we have had up and downs..but i would honestly say alot more ups…now the advice…how can i learn to be more of a friend to her,i never want to stop being her friend….and the second thing is im 42years old she is 26…do you think that is a problem….thanks for any advice or comments

By: justin edwards

justin edwards — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 02:30:29 +0000

i love what u said and it is good advice but i been married 3 years now and things arent like they use to be. she has a girlfriend which is married as well and its like she spends more time communicating to her then she does me. I mean its good to have friends but dont lose contact with your husband. They say u should hang around married people as well but dang her husband dont like the same things i like so how am i suppose to communicate wih him. I feel like we should find a older couple not younger couple to be around maybe we can find out more things that we should know bout in marriage. what should i do.

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By: Eric Hamm

Eric Hamm — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 20:56:25 +0000

@Rayne: I’m glad you enjoyed it and got something useful out of it. Our lives complicate themselves with such ease, yet clearing out even just a little time can feel like a huge undertaking.

Thanks for stopping by and hope to hear more from you. Eric.

By: Rayne

Rayne — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 20:32:43 +0000

I love this post. It really makes you take a step back and realize what you have. My husband and I used to do stuff together all the time. Yet, since our daughter was born 2 years ago, we've pretty much stopped doing stuff together. We are either too tired to do anything period or one of us is taking care of the baby. I think we probably do take each other for granted; after 13 years together, it's easy to do. But I'm going to definitely try to spend more quality time with him from now on, and not let life and parenting take over so much. Rayne´s last blog post..NKOTB and a Girls’ Night Out

By: Eric Hamm

Eric Hamm — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 02:28:16 +0000

@Rosie: Wow, 7 kids! Sounds like a busy life.

Thanks for your kind words and a few tidbits about your relationship with your husband. It sounds like a wonderful story.

By: Rosie : )

Rosie : ) — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 18:53:30 +0000

You describe your wife wonderfully, with your emotions clear for us to see. My husband was my best friend for a year before we decided to go out together, and he was also my best friend during our engagement year.

Twelve years and seven kids later, we are still best friends. It is so nice to have that security of knowing each other.

Rosie : )´s last blog post..Ketchup, anyone?

By: Eric Hamm

Eric Hamm — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 13:49:29 +0000

@Patricia: “I think part of our strength is that we are not best friends. I would just like to offer up the possibility that there are many combinations which results in strength and love,…”

This is a great point and I agree that this can be the case. I’m glad that you and your husband are the ‘right’ combination.

@Avani-Mehta: “I see lot of commenters above with a more than a decade of being best friends with their partners – like angel, sean (writer dad), urban panther, patricia … would love to know what their secret is?”

I don’t think there’s any secret, just patience, love, and more patience.

@Daniel: Thanks for the great compliment!

@Evelyn Lim: Thanks. We’re still very young, but have been through our share of trials and come out stronger because of it.

@Matthew: “I sent her this link, thanks for giving us something to chat about tomorrow.”

You’ll have to let us know what conversation ensued.

@Maya: “Recently, he suggested I put away the laptop one night of the week, so we can have some together time, chatting about nothing, after the kids went to bed ….”

I’ve thought about this. I’m a lot like you, getting caught up in my work. We speak with our actions and if I can’t put my work down to spend time with my wife, what am I saying to her?

“I still need to hear your secret wrt being first on the ZenHabits comment list ”

I might turn this into a post at Up-And-Coming-Blogger, but then again, I might not.