One thing I always notice when reading the words of successful individuals is that they think for themselves. You can just tell they do things the way THEY think is best, not what they think OTHERS would do or wish them to do. They are trailblazers because they are first to push away a new path and it is this self-confidence and willingness to think independent of the herd that earns them their respect and often times their success.
We all have our own unique personalities; our own likes, dislikes and general preferences. Unfortunately many of us end up compromising these preferences for what we believe is a necessary evil. Yet all too often we find someone else doing what we wanted to do, but didn’t for fear of a failing result. Our success was stolen by our own twisted idea that our uniqueness was a liability, not an asset.
I don’t know about you, but I’m often afraid of truly speaking my mind for fear of things like disagreement, tainting of my reputation and that awful thing we call r-e-j-e-c-t-i-o-n! I mean, what if I’m misunderstood? Or what if I say something that turns out to be inaccurate or maybe just comes across as silly?
The problem with these fears is that the alternative is much worse. Let’s say we are successful, but fake? Or even worse, unsuccessful AND fake? Either way we will be miserable. If we are not being ourselves then who cares if we are accepted? It’s high school all over again, right?! You know what I mean, when we tried to be liked by certain people by talking a certain way, walking a certain way and acting a certain way. Then we look back on those days and think how silly we were and how meaningless it all was with our own uniqueness pushed down by our fears. This has to stop or we will never know what we’re truly capable of!
The Hard Part Is Taking The First Step
I could go on and on about the importance of being ourselves or the detriment of not, but let’s assume we agree at this point. OK, so now what? Well, it’s really quite simple. We need only to listen to our own hearts and minds. That’s pretty much it.
I’m not suggesting we disregard the wisdom around us or go against someone else’s better judgment, but when the only thing standing between being ourselves and being fake is fear of the “what if” we must always push ahead! The more we do this the easier it will be and the easier it gets the better we’ll be at being ourselves.
What Does It Mean To Be Yourself
When I think of ‘being yourself’ I picture someone who acts on their intuition, not the latest census. I see an individual who goes against the grain for no other reason but to appease their unique idea of how it should be done. I envision a peace of mind that only comes from the knowledge that if they’re going to be rejected or even ignored it will be THEY who are taking the hit, not their pseudo self.
I see so much that I want to be and success that is waiting to be grasped, yet my fears keep me from taking that first step. I’ve made great strides over the years, but still have a ways to go. As I continue to break out of my shell and see the benefits of being myself I thought I’d share this struggle with you in hopes that if you’re stuck as a pseudo you, that you’d be inspired to push past this guaranteed mediocrity.