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EDITOR’S NOTE: This is a guest post from Jeremy Day of Insight Writer.
The days of us personal development bloggers talking about life balance almost seem to be over.
We used to talk about it so much. Yet it seems that the subject of life balance has gone more or less quiet in most circles.
I think people are a bit jaded with the idea of balancing it all. Many people try it and fail. Or do it, but it seems to only last for a short time.
I have another idea. How about we look at just staying in our sweet spot?
Forget About Perfection
I don’t know about you, but I have this need to reach perfection in many areas of my life. At the very least, I lead a life focused on a relentless pursuit of improving myself.
This is all well and good. This pursuit has brought me a long way. However, I have to remind myself that perfection is unattainable. It is a myth and a legend. No one is perfect at all.
Embrace Your Reality
Therefore, we need to embrace our reality. And this means embracing ourselves with all our flaws and ugliness.
It means accepting the fact that you can’t please everyone.
It means some people will love you and some people just might hate you.
It means your actions will make people happy, it will make them sad, it will make them angry, and everything else you can think of.
Stop beating yourself up over the fact that you can’t please everyone.
People will try to manipulate you into doing things you wouldn’t otherwise do. Don’t listen to them.
People will change you for the better through their caring about you. By being unselfish. Watch out for selfish people with seemingly good motives. They can be the worst kind.
Again, accept yourself as you are. Not everyone will love you, but not everyone will hate you either. People tend to love people who are authentic anyway.
Be Content with Contentment
We talk about contentment, but we don’t really want it. We always want more. It seems to be part of the human condition.
Even when we say we are content we often have thoughts in our minds of more.
More love, more power, more money, more toys, more friends, more of everything you can imagine.
When will we ever learn to just be content with contentment?
It’s really OK to be content. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone! You don’t have to prove that you are better or can get more.
You see the human condition really is about improving our own self worth. If we can achieve more and receive more, of whatever it is, we feel better about ourselves.
Yet there is a sweet spot…
Remember what is most important
Feeling good about ourselves is important, but not most important.
Getting what you want out of life is important, but not most important.
Having things that make you happy and help you enjoy life better is important, but not most important.
What is most important are the people in our lives.
Our family, our friends, our neighbors, our customers, our co-workers, our community. That is what is most important.
To live in your sweet spot forget about perfection. All people are imperfect and yet a lot of good still comes out of this imperfect people.
To live in your sweet spot embrace your reality. If you are made to be a carpenter, be a carpenter. No use wishing you were the shoe maker. Remember that your reality also includes the people that fate brings into your life. Embrace those circumstances as well.
To live in your sweet spot be content with contentment. Its OK to be content with what you have. Enjoy it while it lasts.
To live in your sweet spot remember what’s most important. Take the time you need to spend it with the ones you care about most. If you can do that one thing, you will be living a pretty sweet life…