There’s absolutely nothing wrong with pleasing people, including ourselves. If we’re willing to make sacrifices for the sake of another, who are we to say that’s wrong? But the fact is, people pleasing isn’t about pleasing others, but fending off our fear of rejection. Those of us who would consider themselves people pleasers are generally individuals who feel the need to be accepted by the world around them. And not just a general acceptance, but that of each person they come in contact with. And to maintain this madness, we seek to please with abandon. Read more »
How To Deal With Negative Feedback
As human beings, we are affected by the feedback we receive from those around us. Whether good, bad or neutral, the words we hear and the tone in which they are seasoned, can have a powerful impact on how we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us. From the time we first take notice of this double edge we call the tongue, we are keenly aware of its sting as well as its ability to uplift the somber soul.
Feeling the sting of a verbal attack
I recently received an email from one of my websites that was anything but positive in nature. I was basically told, by a total stranger that had just laid eyes on my site for the very first time, that I was a worthless piece of @#$%. This person seemed to go to great lengths to tare me down as quickly and effectively as possible. I had been having quite a tough week and this was just one more stone that had met its intended target. Read more »