Comments on: Why NOT Listening To Others Simplifies Life http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/ Your Freedom Depends On It! Mon, 07 May 2012 20:03:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jeremy Day http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1135 Jeremy Day Fri, 12 Dec 2008 15:46:11 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1135 Hi Barbara, Thank you so much for visiting! Glad you found my post helpful. Cheers, Jeremy <abbr><em>Jeremy Day´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/InsightWriter/~3/481394109/" rel="nofollow">Why Politicians Keep Telling Us to Spend, Spend, Spend!!!</a></abbr></em> Hi Barbara,

Thank you so much for visiting! Glad you found my post helpful.

Cheers,
Jeremy

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]]> By: Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1123 Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog Fri, 12 Dec 2008 03:46:12 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1123 Hi Eric and Jeremy - Great guest post. I agree listening to others can be detrimental to us, especially if they are being negative. Asking yourself the questions you've suggested will eliminate letting the words of others "get to us". <abbr><em>Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog´s last blog post..<a href="http://bloggingwithoutablog.com/when-your-truth-is-different-than-mine/" rel="nofollow">When Your Truth Is Different Than Mine</a></abbr></em> Hi Eric and Jeremy – Great guest post.

I agree listening to others can be detrimental to us, especially if they are being negative. Asking yourself the questions you’ve suggested will eliminate letting the words of others “get to us”.

Barbara Swafford – Blogging Without A Blog´s last blog post..When Your Truth Is Different Than Mine

]]> By: Jeremy Day http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1124 Jeremy Day Thu, 11 Dec 2008 15:27:13 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1124 @ Juliet - Very true. There is always that need to please unless you are the most cold hearted person on earth and care about no one. @ Lyne - That is awesome to hear! I love it when someone takes the time to let me know my writing is changing their life. Kudos to you! ;-) @ Alex - You know I have gone to one extreme and back again. I think on any important decision in life it is a virtue to solicit as many opinions as you can, and make your OWN decision from there. I have started to practice this and it does work wonders. The main thing I am ranting about in the article is UNSOLICITED advice and opinions. If I didn't ask you don't tell me. Unless you are my friend, care about me deeply, and see me going down the wrong path in life. Then I would hope you would intervene. ;-) Cheers, Jeremy <abbr><em>Jeremy Day´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/InsightWriter/~3/480301441/" rel="nofollow">Why YOU are your own best investment advisor</a></abbr></em> @ Juliet – Very true. There is always that need to please unless you are the most cold hearted person on earth and care about no one.

@ Lyne – That is awesome to hear! I love it when someone takes the time to let me know my writing is changing their life. Kudos to you! ;-)

@ Alex – You know I have gone to one extreme and back again. I think on any important decision in life it is a virtue to solicit as many opinions as you can, and make your OWN decision from there. I have started to practice this and it does work wonders.

The main thing I am ranting about in the article is UNSOLICITED advice and opinions. If I didn’t ask you don’t tell me. Unless you are my friend, care about me deeply, and see me going down the wrong path in life. Then I would hope you would intervene. ;-)

Cheers,
Jeremy

Jeremy Day´s last blog post..Why YOU are your own best investment advisor

]]> By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1125 Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:47:07 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1125 I'm usually of the go-my-own-way-thanks mentality, but Daniel Gilbert in Stumbling on Happiness says the the best predictor of our future happiness lies in talking to others and soliciting their opinions. He also goes on to say that hardly anyone will do this and I agree with him. I'd rather be slightly unhappy and independent - but as my mother says: I started leaving home the moment I came out of the womb... ;) <abbr><em>Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SomedaySyndrome/~3/481444969/" rel="nofollow">Do You Know How Happy You Are?</a></abbr></em> I’m usually of the go-my-own-way-thanks mentality, but Daniel Gilbert in Stumbling on Happiness says the the best predictor of our future happiness lies in talking to others and soliciting their opinions.

He also goes on to say that hardly anyone will do this and I agree with him. I’d rather be slightly unhappy and independent – but as my mother says: I started leaving home the moment I came out of the womb… ;)

Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome´s last blog post..Do You Know How Happy You Are?

]]> By: Lyne http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1126 Lyne Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:05:32 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1126 Awesome Post! Just what I needed ;-) It is so easy to get pulled into the opinions of others.... complicating your life. Especially if you are a genuine trusting person. Your suggestions helped me to get back on my track of mindful listening in order to keep my life simplified. Thanks ;-) Awesome Post!
Just what I needed ;-)
It is so easy to get pulled into the opinions of others…. complicating your life. Especially if you are a genuine trusting person.
Your suggestions helped me to get back on my track of mindful listening in order to keep my life simplified.
Thanks ;-)

]]> By: LifeMadeGreat | Juliet http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1127 LifeMadeGreat | Juliet Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:29:01 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1127 Hi Jeremy I think that truth is better than feelings but is, in my view, more difficult. We want to please others and feel we need to go with thier opinions etc. There is not only the confusion of our troubles, but also the desire to be accepted and avoid all those terrible feelings of rejection and isolation. Juliet <abbr><em>LifeMadeGreat | Juliet´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/LifemadegreatBlog/~3/480287571/blog.aspx" rel="nofollow">Personal Development Pains</a></abbr></em> Hi Jeremy

I think that truth is better than feelings but is, in my view, more difficult. We want to please others and feel we need to go with thier opinions etc.
There is not only the confusion of our troubles, but also the desire to be accepted and avoid all those terrible feelings of rejection and isolation.

Juliet

LifeMadeGreat | Juliet´s last blog post..Personal Development Pains

]]> By: Jeremy Day http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1128 Jeremy Day Wed, 10 Dec 2008 23:22:16 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1128 @ PJ = Thanks for calling my writing elegant. ;-) But really, you are right. If you have two good and wise people telling you something you should listen. You just gotta figure out if they are wise or not. And sometimes the crowd IS wrong and you gotta follow your gut. Critical thinking and decision making are two courses in the school of hard knocks. These will help you when it comes to choosing which opinion is the correct one. @ Vincent - I love your point! Entrepreneurs are people who really don't follow the crowd. The key to their success is finding people who actually share worthwhile information to build their business. @ Ricardo - Great point! Negative opinions are usually not worth listening to. Give me a positive opinion any day! @ WR & Maya - This article was written with the risk that I might throw the baby out with the bath water. I certainly wasn't saying to not listen to the wisdom of others. But I think Maya has it right. I'm asking people to work on this precious skill of discerning true wisdom. The right path to walk seems to be in distinguishing between an opinion full of wisdom and any other kind of opinion out there. Hopefully we can all get better at this. @ Eric - Thank you again for giving me the chance to guest post! I'm hoping to see a few more comments... Cheers, Jeremy <abbr><em>Jeremy Day´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/InsightWriter/~3/480301441/" rel="nofollow">Why YOU are your own best investment advisor</a></abbr></em> @ PJ = Thanks for calling my writing elegant. ;-) But really, you are right. If you have two good and wise people telling you something you should listen. You just gotta figure out if they are wise or not. And sometimes the crowd IS wrong and you gotta follow your gut. Critical thinking and decision making are two courses in the school of hard knocks. These will help you when it comes to choosing which opinion is the correct one.

@ Vincent – I love your point! Entrepreneurs are people who really don’t follow the crowd. The key to their success is finding people who actually share worthwhile information to build their business.

@ Ricardo – Great point! Negative opinions are usually not worth listening to. Give me a positive opinion any day!

@ WR & Maya – This article was written with the risk that I might throw the baby out with the bath water. I certainly wasn’t saying to not listen to the wisdom of others. But I think Maya has it right. I’m asking people to work on this precious skill of discerning true wisdom. The right path to walk seems to be in distinguishing between an opinion full of wisdom and any other kind of opinion out there. Hopefully we can all get better at this.

@ Eric – Thank you again for giving me the chance to guest post! I’m hoping to see a few more comments…

Cheers,
Jeremy

Jeremy Day´s last blog post..Why YOU are your own best investment advisor

]]> By: Maya http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1129 Maya Wed, 10 Dec 2008 19:52:47 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1129 Writer Dad is bad. He stole my thoughts. But I have to agree that he said it much better than I'd have! Learning to tell opinions from true wisdom is a good skill to work on. <abbr><em>Maya´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ThinkMaya/~3/479862758/" rel="nofollow">A Simple Happiness Equation: A Picture</a></abbr></em> Writer Dad is bad. He stole my thoughts.

But I have to agree that he said it much better than I’d have!

Learning to tell opinions from true wisdom is a good skill to work on.

Maya´s last blog post..A Simple Happiness Equation: A Picture

]]> By: Ricardo Bueno http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1131 Ricardo Bueno Wed, 10 Dec 2008 17:52:03 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1131 I've learned to drown out all of the negative stuff that tries to bring you down in our day-to-day. <abbr><em>Ricardo Bueno´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.ribeezie.com/ribeezie/2008/12/why-isnt-it-working-.html" rel="nofollow">Why Isn't This Working?</a></abbr></em> I’ve learned to drown out all of the negative stuff that tries to bring you down in our day-to-day.

Ricardo Bueno´s last blog post..Why Isn’t This Working?

]]> By: Why YOU are your own best investment advisor | Insight Writer http://motivatethyself.com/why-not-listening-to-others-simplifies-life/#comment-1130 Why YOU are your own best investment advisor | Insight Writer Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:21:40 +0000 http://motivatethyself.com/?p=1856#comment-1130 [...] it is a good thing not to listen to other people’s opinions. When it comes to money everyone has an opinion. Have you heard these [...] [...] it is a good thing not to listen to other people’s opinions. When it comes to money everyone has an opinion. Have you heard these [...]

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